.@ChrisBrown does something very positive…and we’re confused

“Hope you guys love the single but more importantly the message. Hopefully my actions inspire change and positivity.” – Chris Brown

After all of Chris Brown’s abhorrent behavior, he is still an incredibly popular voice in music. People still look up to him whether we like it or not. And when he shares a positive message it reaches a lot of people who might have tuned out otherwise. We will continue to debate and discuss Chris Brown’s problematic past, but at present I’ll listen to what he has to say…and stare at the screen puzzled.

Just Tattoo Her Face on Your Body…

Part of me wants to scream — the other part wants me to thank Chris Brown for ensuring that I have a long career ahead of me (thanks for the job security bro).
If you haven’t yet heard Chris Brown is sporting some new ink. (Makes you think of Ochocino doesn’t it?)

Okay, so there are LOTS of folks exclaiming that it in no way is Rhianna, and that in fact “it’s a MAC cosmetics design of a skull associated with the Mexican celebration of the Day of the Dead. (see below)”. For me, this puts into question: Does he deserve “the benefit of the doubt”? Have we not put up with his abusive antics long enough? Some of us (cough cough #TeamBreezy) have defended Brown as if he were our hero. Let’s be completely straightforward here: He’s had far too many “chances”. He proved that he didn’t learn a damn thing after viciously beating Rhianna, the partner he supposedly loved; then begging for forgiveness, and getting a light punishment; smashing windows at an interview during an explosion of anger; physically fighting with Drake; continually regards women as bitches and glorifies his beating of Rhianna in his songs:

“Don’t f—k with my old bitch, it’s like a bad fur/ Every industry n—— done had her/ Shook the tree like a pumpkin just to smash her/ B*tch is breaking codes, but I’m the password.”

So none of these behaviors involve any tattoos on his neck. Don’t worry, I’m pretty sure he’s still an abuser who doesn’t see anything wrong with his behaviors even without this new ink of his.

The time to hold him accountable is now. Speak out against his actions, abuse in general, and don’t encourage or give your money to him. Delete his songs from your Ipod and change the station when he comes up on your radio. In other words… #TurnDownChrisBrown

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sacchi Patel, M.S.

Co-Founder MasculinityU

Quick Thought: The Chris Brown Paradox

A few days ago Chris Brown won the BET Award for Best Male R&B Artist. Right now, his new album is on track to hit #1 on the Billboard charts. It’s easy to understand why that is. Chris Brown is immensely talented. His songs are catchy. He has a rabid and loyal fan base that rivals most this side of anyone diagnosed with Bieber Fever. Here is my problem: he’s not a good person.

Every time his fans make him number one or he sells out a show or he wins an award, all it does is reinforce to him and the rest of the world that he is above judgment. This is a man that beat his girlfriend and more recently got into a well publicized altercation at a club. The fact that we celebrate him makes me worry about the message young men are receiving about what behavior is acceptable. So long as he keeps making music with a beat we can step to, I’m not sure that it will ever change. However, we need to start thinking critically about who we idolize.

 

Rihanna & Chris Brown Collaboration

Folks are angered by the latest collaboration between Chris Brown and Rihanna. However, let’s be sure we aren’t focusing our energy on victim-blaming or faulting Rihanna for “going back”. First of all- a song collaboration isn’t exactly taking part in a dating relationship, and secondly we need to fully understand the dynamics of abusive relationships within a cycle of abuse.

There are lots of reasons why someone who has been abused would return to or seem to forgive an abusive partner (even though that not exactly what Rihanna had done).

Here are some reasons why a victim or survivor of abuse might return to an abusive relationship.

– they are scared of future consequences if they don’t return

- they have been told constantly by abuser that it was only a one-time mistake

- family, friends, (and fans) constantly tell them that abuser is a good person and wouldn’t have committed such acts OR they have learned from mistakes

- they are guilted into retuning to the relationship

- abuser creates a great deal of dependence on them and convinces them to come back to “be there for them”

- abuser had isolated them so much that they have no other support systems

- they are genuinely in love

- they are convinced that if they return, they can change abuser